The first days or, Overcoming F.E.A.R.

The first days or, Overcoming F.E.A.R.

Overcoming F.E.A.R. or False Evidence Appearing Real seems to have been the theme for this first week of our trip. Whether it was realizing that some reactions to our adventure were the result of their own F.E.A.R.s or finding the strength to pull through when the hills were too steep and night was coming.

Day 1
D-day went off without a hitch. Even after only four hour sleep we still left on time and made it to our last Chinese classes on time! The principal invited me to talk to the students about our upcoming trip and listen to another student’s trip to Africa during the spring break. LP has also been asked to give a talk when we get back in September, so we’ve got an extra incentive for keeping his log!

After class LP and I had lunch at a park around the corner and while he played on the park I confirmed our directions to our first overnight in Stow, MA. I even had a small nap before we headed out. Arriving around 5:30 at our wonderful host’s home I collapsed next to their backyard pond while LP enjoyed hammock before meeting T and C who prepared an amazing dinner and entertained LP with a homemade Pokemon bingo and even a Staeryue costume for LP to try on! The night was perfect, moonlit, and LP and I were serenaded by nature on our first night on the road.

Day 2
I had read that the second day was one of the worst on a tour and… It was so true! I started out with the best of intentions and ideas of grandeur to get to Greenfield by the end of the day. Our second host was scheduled a month prior and it had been my intention to spend the first night halfway between Boston and this host. However, we ended up unable to a secure a host closer than Stow (17 miles from Boston), which ended up working out since I’d never give up having met T and C! Around 4:00 PM LP and I had climbed a number of hills and been reduced to walking up many of them by the time we reached Princeton, Ma and were only halfway to our intended destination. Then it became a matter of, “well, what do we do now?” And, “what do we feel capable of doing, as far as distance is concerned?” We were pretty close to being in the middle of nowhere as far as tourism and amenities for people not in cars are concerned. The closest possible hosts were about 10 miles north and south and no campsites were coming up on google. Finally, the search for a “motel” pulled up a Rodeway Inn eight miles away. I felt confident we could make those eight miles, and when I put it to LP that we could either do eight miles to the motel or 60 back home, he made the choice to do eight.

However, choosing and doing are two very different things, and about halfway in I was reduced to tears as the mountain just kept going up and all I wanted to do was pitch our tent and call it a day! I had a little boy who needed to be fed and I just wanted somewhere warm and dry for the night. But Massachusetts is not a friendly place to the stealth camper, or maybe the virgin-stealth camper. Both sides of the road were at steep grades or over ditches and were still fairly visible at 5 in the afternoon to the roadway. But, my little prince prevailed and turned my words back on me. So what could I do but get up and get moving?

An hour later Little Prince and I pedaled up another steep incline, registered for a hotel room, and found ourselves showered and exhausted eating microwaved dinner while watching the Mighty Ducks before turning out the light.
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Just a few hours before we role on out

Over the past week LP and I have been working hard to make final preparations for our departure (D-day) on Sunday.  There are a few loose ends that will probably still remain once we hit the road, but I am confident that I can tie them up while on the road.  Right now our main concerns are packing (gear on the bikes, care packages that will be shipped along the way, and a house that will hopefully have a sub letter in a few weeks), saying goodbye to wonderful people who we will miss dearly, and final upgrades to our bikes.

Packing

Decisions, decisions!  I’ll be posting a gear list in a few days but needless to say this has probably been the hardest trip I’ve ever had to pack for since more than just weather and activity are affecting my decisions.  I also have weight, lessons, and cleanliness to worry about!  I’ve finally decided to just stop worrying so much about it.  We’ll be bringing two day outfits and one night.  One iPad for blogging and reading bedtime stories.  And our camping gear.  After a couple of nights camping in the living room I think we got it pretty much figured out.

Upgrades

As the amazing mechanics over at my favorite bike shop, Ferris Wheels, said, “it’s not the most traditional setup [for touring].”  And no, nothing about what we are about to do is traditional. For a while I wondered if I’d even be able to pull this off with my Fuji crosstown bike.  But with a little help from some great classes at REI and Bikes not Bombs I figured out ways that I can make it work.  So a lower gear ratio, some clip-in pedals, and new brakes and I already feel like I can tackle the next big mountain!

Goodbye

This is probably the hardest part.  May is when people just start coming out of winter hibernation here in Boston so to just be saying “hello” only to say “goodbye” or “so long,” has been really hard on Little Prince.  Just as his friends are emerging and the warm weather LP is going on an adventure which he’s still not 100% sure he wants to go on.  Back in November when we started planning it sounded like a fabulous idea to him, especially since May was so far in the future.  But, D-day is upon us and he’s afraid – I have surmised – of missing out on amazing things with his friends.  It’s a lesson we all have to learn at some point and maybe this is setting LP up for success: learning that he must live his life his way and not worry about what he MIGHT miss out on when his path takes him away from the paths of those people he has grown close to.  Even as an adult I have trouble with this, so I certainly understand where he is coming from.  But, this is the trouble with making choices: rarely may we have our cake and eat it too.

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